Are Women bred to be gold-diggers?

I dread the fact that I chose this topic to be featured on my blog. I can sense the latent hostility bubbling underneath my reader's skin who possibly and rightly perceived me to be a feminist. But allow yourself the privilege of reading a topic you don't agree with, as freedom of speech still exists and the idea of free thinking appeals to me.

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My first response to the question is: "That is because of sexism". Most people in the public sphere would refrain from inching towards implying women are gold-diggers because of the shitstorm and accusations of sexism; as I expressed before; that would follow. However, my answer was pivoting in a different direction. I think with problems of humanity as such, all of us, including me, are pretty quick to point fingers and scream howl. Far fewer meaningful discussions of problem-solving regarding them are seen. Since I was trying to include myself in the crowds of the latter, my answer was meant to provide an insight into gold-digging.

I think; and whatever will follow next, is a mere product of thought and rationality with no research in psychology; that women of such, for the most part, have grown up in homes and environments where the grown-up guide to life had a mentality which sought to breed doubt and incapacity of their being in the younger kind. This was probably multiplied by the child's attempts that yielded failure to induce shame. I have heard that children at a younger age have narcissistic tendencies normal for their age group. Skillfully using the seeds of shame, the grown-up individual (probably) somehow decreased the role of self-responsibility and increased the role of entitlement in their young prodigy's life, giving way to an individual who has tastes that are impossibly high to meet while simultaneously possessing immense disbelief in their capacity as a human being to reach them. What stands as the only option for fulfillment: Find a partner who'll do it for you. 

Of course, women aren't the only kind groomed into this old-age ideology. Men can be groomed into it as well. No wonder; in heterosexual relationships, for example; these individuals find each other as a perfect fit and report no problems at the beginning of the relationship. After all, it fits within their ideas of a perfect life.

A few important points to be noted:

1. My passage is about how parenting and the school of life inside a parent's mind shape a child's worldview. This post isn't about mental illness/mental health or anything of its kind and shouldn't be taken as such. Regardless of the past, I still believe adults are responsible for their own behaviour.

2. Men can be gold-diggers too. This post has nothing to do with it. The same reasoning used to dissect gold-digging in women can be used for men gold diggers as well but I wanted to strictly stick with the hot topic.

3. I would strongly disagree with people who say women are genetic gold-diggers and I am saying this out loud to inform misogynists to keep their support away from me.